It Hurts to Be a Man
From Heaven to Hell with a Smile
by Tumelo T PhakaMen are told to be strong all the time. But it hurts.
In It Hurts to Be a Man, Tumelo T Phaka writes about the emotions, vulnerability and mental struggles that men are taught to hide. Drawing on his own life and what he has seen around him, he looks at the pressure of society’s expectations and how silence can lead to broken relationships, prison, hospital and early death.
The book calls on men to seek help without shame, and on families, partners and communities to make it safe for them to open up. It is a book for men who need to feel seen, and for everyone who loves them.
Tumelo T Phaka
Bestselling author, motivational speaker and mental health advocate from Setlagole Village in North West.
Breaking the silence.
“Men are told to be strong all the time.” Tumelo spoke to Scrolla.Africa about why he wrote the book, and Mjazz Magonline called it a tool for change.
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